Post by TheKorean on Sept 16, 2011 2:10:43 GMT -5
Things that work/don't work in persuading you to do/not do things......
Are there particular things that always/never work when persuading you to do or not do something?
I'm very perverse when I feel pressured into doing something...especially when the person applying the pressure is trying to use shame, guilt, or embarrassment as the motivator...or demands that I do something as if I owed it to him/her (when I don't feel that I do). If anyone attempts to get me to do anything by these means, I make it a POINT to not do it...even if I need to sacrifice something of my self-interest to make that point (there are limits to this of course; if you're insulting me AND pointing a loaded gun at me the same time, then I'll do whatever it is you want).
I haven't been seriously bribed into doing anything before, so I don't know how I'd respond to that. It depends on how objectionable the task I'm being bribed to do is. I can't say that I'm immune to bribery, but there are some things I'm pretty sure I wouldn't do no matter what was being offered to me.
Appealing to my sense of sympathy is often very effective. I sometimes do the craziest things for people if I have enough sympathy for them.
Inviting me to do something in a friendly spirit of inclusiveness, no pressure, often works if I have sufficient innate interest in whatever it is. If that inclusiveness turns into pressure after I've already said "no," however, I can get very obstinate about it.
Above all, whenever I choose to do something, I like to know that it was mostly or totally my idea and my decision. I *hate* the idea of someone else taking satisfaction in the idea that he/she *made* me do something I didn't really want to.
Are there particular things that always/never work when persuading you to do or not do something?
I'm very perverse when I feel pressured into doing something...especially when the person applying the pressure is trying to use shame, guilt, or embarrassment as the motivator...or demands that I do something as if I owed it to him/her (when I don't feel that I do). If anyone attempts to get me to do anything by these means, I make it a POINT to not do it...even if I need to sacrifice something of my self-interest to make that point (there are limits to this of course; if you're insulting me AND pointing a loaded gun at me the same time, then I'll do whatever it is you want).
I haven't been seriously bribed into doing anything before, so I don't know how I'd respond to that. It depends on how objectionable the task I'm being bribed to do is. I can't say that I'm immune to bribery, but there are some things I'm pretty sure I wouldn't do no matter what was being offered to me.
Appealing to my sense of sympathy is often very effective. I sometimes do the craziest things for people if I have enough sympathy for them.
Inviting me to do something in a friendly spirit of inclusiveness, no pressure, often works if I have sufficient innate interest in whatever it is. If that inclusiveness turns into pressure after I've already said "no," however, I can get very obstinate about it.
Above all, whenever I choose to do something, I like to know that it was mostly or totally my idea and my decision. I *hate* the idea of someone else taking satisfaction in the idea that he/she *made* me do something I didn't really want to.