The downsides of being physically attractive?

[Snow Goddess]

And no, by replying, you're not calling yourself attractive. let's just forget that and have an honest discussion.

[jooojooobeee]

-People won't take you seriously (unless you're a man, people will LISTEN to you. With women, if you're smart and attractive she's a pinkberry and doesn't know what she's talking about. But if she defends her ground, people will resort to insidious ways of discrediting her. If she successfully explains herself, then it will detract the overall "charm" of her, therefore she's a pinkberry.) C'est la vie! lol

-People will accuse you of getting passed through life without working hard. They'll assume attractiveness = easy life / privileges will be given to you.

-You will never know 100% if people are being genuine with you or feigning/fawning over you just to bask within your popularity or whatever.

-Passive aggressive attention/reactions from women. Aggressive attention from men.

-For some, maintaining physical attractiveness will trigger self-esteem issues. They will believe people will only like them because of their looks. Or to get ahead in life that looks will get them there. Weaker minds will be bogged down in this swamp of self pity.

-But then again, if you're so vainglorious you probably won't be bothered to invest in sharpening your intelligence beyond the level you feel necessary.... hence, all these downsides.

[FragrantMemory]

I think everyone's considered attractive in one culture or another.
There are exceptions, but somehow I haven't come across many. Thus, the following will happen in uncertain doses.

There's also the possibility of guys either wanting to be in a relationship with you or nothing, never considering you friend material.
It's happened .

Jealous wee-otches always scrutinizing your life and talking trash about you and trying to manipulate those around you into hating you for trivial reasons.
It's happened.

Creepy men/rapists/predators stalking you.
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[tdksj]

can list a few:
1) center of attention = watching your embarrassing moments when youd rather have knowing watching
2) people always staring
3) mean muggin/glares/snares
4) fakers
5) copy cats
6) beauty brings haters
7) jealousy among not so pretty people
8) rape victim
9) may be criticized & stero typed as cocky, conceited, fake, dumb, ditzy
10) may seem "too good enough" that others tend to feel not good enough to get with that pretty person

I think #10 is the most along with #5 & #6.

[Blissful_Eternity]

#1 - Creepy men stopping to stare at you, whilst making crude remarks. And thus, attracting more unwanted attention.
That's probably the worst.

#2 - Public transport is never safe unless you're with a friend. (Ie: getting raped, stalked etc ... and this happens regularly).

#3 - There's always an expectation for you to look your best.

#4 - You're always likely to be taken advantage of physically.



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There's generally more upsides though.

I'm sorry, Ling, but #1 and #2 were first to come to mind.

[Xyrad]

My thoughts:
I see this thread as being too subjective. I tried replying under the initial premise, but all of my thoughts kept coming back to how people put too much emphasis on looks when judging a person. (Yeah, it's necessary to make yourself look nice because it shows people that you know how to take care of yourself, but that's not the point.)

What happens when a person believes that "hot mama" = "best girl in the world who I TOTALLY deserve" is usually the stuff listed above, a lot of damnable, obsessive/possessive behavior.

Remembering that this is a discussion, I'll throw in some actual responses:

------jooojooobeee------
"People won't take you seriously."
It depends on what field they're in. They'll take you less seriously as you go further into the sciences and just become more vindictive (if you're more attractive than them) as you head into the arts (modelling being the extreme here).

"They'll assume attractiveness = easy life / privileges will be given to you."
You actually do get through life a little easier, and this part applies to pretty much everyone. People are wired to be nicer to people they think are attractive.

"You will never know 100% if people are being genuine with you or feigning/fawning over you just to bask within your popularity or whatever."
Networking is just something that people are supposed to do nowadays. You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying why they do it.

-----Eternalmoon-----
"I think everyone's considered attractive in one culture or another.
There are exceptions, but somehow I haven't come across many." Hear, hear!

"Relationship with you or nothing, never considering you friend material."
Yeah, this is mostly what I'm talking about. These guys are assholes.

"Jealous wee-otches"
It happens

"Creepy men/rapists/predators stalking you."
Hey! I'm not creepy!

-----tdksj-----
Yeah, people tend to focus more on those they find attractive, but are also less likely to find fault with tripping over a crack in the sidewalk. The rest of what you listed boils down to aggressive tendencies some people have trouble with.

-----Bliss-----
"Creepy men stopping to stare at you, whilst making crude remarks. And thus, attracting more unwanted attention.
That's probably the worst."
More dumb guys making the rest of us look bad... >_>

"Public transport is never safe unless you're with a friend. (Ie: getting raped, stalked etc ... and this happens regularly)."
What's the data?

" There's always an expectation for you to look your best. "
People fear change; if you're usually Ms good-lookin' and you suddenly show up "looking like hell," people are going to wonder what's up.

"You're always likely to be taken advantage of physically."
How?

"There's generally more upsides though."
Yes.

[icekissmist]

Dec 30, 2009 13:55:55 GMT -5 FragrantMemory said:

I think everyone's considered attractive in one culture or another.
There are exceptions, but somehow I haven't come across many.

this is bullsh1; u only say that cuz of taylor lautner
face it, with the long ass wig, you and the rest of them paid him no notice
when he cut his hair and took his shirt off, he became a god with all of you

[FragrantMemory]

Dec 30, 2009 14:52:27 GMT -5 icekissmist said:

this is bullsh1; u only say that cuz of taylor lautner
face it, with the long ass wig, you and the rest of them paid him no notice
when he cut his hair and took his shirt off, he became a god with all of you

. . . What? ;
I didn't see this tangent coming. It's not even relevant, 'mist. ._.
There's a lot I could say to this, but for now, w h a t e v e r .

Is that the type of aggression everyone's talking about?

Keedin` .



But yeah... since adeezy asked. The good-looking ones tend to attract more sexual predators, is what Bliss is trying to say. There doesn't have to be statistics to prove that.
That said, there are psychos everywhere and we need to just all be extra careful.
The list of registered offenders is only one portion of those dogs.

Everything else discussed is under the same category.

[Xyrad]

Hmm, good point since it's largely unreported anyway. :/

Oh, hey! Look, everybody! Exhibit A is back!
Would you like to describe your thoughts on this subject in more detail, IKM?