What have you learned lately?

[Blissful_Eternity]

going beyond school, what have you learned in the past few months or even year about yourself and life in general?

[FragrantMemory]

I'm really getting a kick out of all these introspective threads.

I definitely misunderstood someone in the past.
I've come to understand a lot more about a friend of mine. Several of them, actually. One of them started out as a friend's friend, got pulled into our circle, in a sense. She was hard to open up, too - and so reserved, too! At times I was afraid I might have offended her, or even frightened her because of my erratic mannerisms. (I'm a female Kim Heechul, to put it simply.)
If anything, in the past it was like black-and-white logic to me that introverts and extroverts do NOT hit it off well.
But well, I know that communication is the universal tool for dealing with people.
I believe I have grown as a person. I've matured somewhat, but I'm still that same child who still has a world to experience. I guess you could say I'm a blend between Eunhyuk and Heechul. I'm definitely not dim-witted in conversation, but my comebacks do not testify to being an adult by any standard. Quick of word doesn't mean that you're a grown-up. It means you've made careful observation and can utilize tools and bend language unlike, perhaps, some of your peers.

Also - it's the thought that kills you, not the feared object.
For example, if your turn on the electric chair(let's just pretend that for some reason, you've been sentenced to death), then I would deem you dead with your nervous and anticipatory thoughts before you even cushion your butt on that thing.


That said,,,

I tend to attract strange people. It doesn't make me happy or boost my self-confidence or anything warped like that. (Some people I know would be flattered to have stalkers - but sometimes I think they confused FAN and STALKER. Believe me, the real ones induce the heebie-jeebies.) It makes me wonder, though. What is it about me? Is it because they sense that I'm naive and overly trusting - an easy target? Do they find my snarky remarks and often frank observations and quips worthy of being drawn to? What is it about me that makes it seem like there's a big red X on my back? Do I seem so playful that they think I'm oblivious?
Well, they're dead wrong if they assume that - I've made it this long without getting kidnapped. There was a close call in middle school, but I was a speedy runner back then.


I still believe the best in people, deep down. I'm so trusting that it jolts me if betrayal appears. I hope it's not going to be my downfall someday. ><

[Blissful_Eternity]

^actually, ling, i think it's the simple fact that they like you. your character is very refreshing and new. naiveness combined with wit and comicalness - it's just really good package
they just don't know how to tell you they like you, bc u seem so naive, so they follow you instead

[FragrantMemory]

Nov 24, 2009 16:04:25 GMT -5 Blissful_Eternity said:

^actually, ling, i think it's the simple fact that they like you. your character is very refreshing and new. naiveness combined with wit and comicalness - it's just really good package
they just don't know how to tell you they like you, bc u seem so naive, so they follow you instead

Honestly, Bliss, regardless of their motive, I really don't like it when people approach me that way. If they want my company, they should just reach out to me about it - in words. "Hey, wanna hang out?" Following me just seems like they're forcing their way into my bubble. It's not that I don't like anyone in particular - it's the communication that merges all gaps. If someone follows me wordlessly, I will of course feel violated.
Speak up about it. If they're such introverts that they can't open their mouths about it, then I really can't help but feel creeped out. Plus, I cannot automatically assume that they're too shy. Maybe they're truly creeps.
I can't emphasize how important communication is to me. It can make a difference between a friend and an enemy. Honestly.

All the friends I have now? All my close friends? None of them ever had a problem reaching out to me. I mean, yeah, some of the introverted girls were a little overwhelmed around me, but they realized that I'm not that rough deep down. We all had healthy beginnings with each other. There was never an initial action that caused me to feel strange or anything.
But as for my stalkers, unless I come to understand them more, and why they follow me, I'm just going to feel... well, stalked .

[Sinful]

i think ur just bein mean and narrowminded. the guy just likes you, sheeesssh
what hes not gud enuff 4u?

[Xyrad]

Nov 24, 2009 15:44:04 GMT -5 FragrantMemory said:

It's the thought that kills you, not the feared object.
For example, if your turn on the electric chair(let's just pretend that for some reason, you've been sentenced to death), then I would deem you dead with your nervous and anticipatory thoughts before you even cushion your butt on that thing.

I agree with that way of thinking. Someone who's sure that they're going to die has lost the will to live at that point. If they no longer have that will to live, they may as well be dead.

Nov 24, 2009 15:44:04 GMT -5 FragrantMemory said:

It makes me wonder, though. What is it about me? Is it because they sense that I'm naive and overly trusting - an easy target? Do they find my snarky remarks and often frank observations and quips worthy of being drawn to? What is it about me that makes it seem like there's a big red X on my back? Do I seem so playful that they think I'm oblivious?
Well, they're dead wrong if they assume that - I've made it this long without getting kidnapped. There was a close call in middle school, but I was a speedy runner back then.

You draw a big X on your back by hiding so much.

Nov 25, 2009 0:04:00 GMT -5 Sinful said:

i think ur just bein mean and narrowminded. the guy just likes you, sheeesssh
what hes not gud enuff 4u?

Duh, of course he likes her, but that guy's seriously acting creepy. He should be stopped... with a shoe to the face.

[FragrantMemory]

Nov 25, 2009 3:22:18 GMT -5 Xyrad said:

You draw a big X on your back by hiding so much.

What do you mean?
All I did was ditch and recline on some bench in front of the Watson Hall. The issue is him not asking to hang out, but trailing me instead.

[Sinful]

i think ling is overreacting

[Xyrad]

The fact that he seemingly pops out of nowhere after she's just walked away from him is rather suspicious. No, it's not wrong to try and catch someone's attention; however, it's quite another thing to continuously snatch it.

Nov 25, 2009 16:44:59 GMT -5 FragrantMemory said:

Nov 25, 2009 3:22:18 GMT -5 Xyrad said:

You draw a big X on your back by hiding so much.

What do you mean?
All I did was ditch and recline on some bench in front of the Watson Hall. The issue is him not asking to hang out, but trailing me instead.

I know that, but I wasn't referring to him. XD

[FragrantMemory]

Nov 25, 2009 19:01:37 GMT -5 Xyrad said:

The fact that he seemingly pops out of nowhere after she's just walked away from him is rather suspicious. No, it's not wrong to try and catch someone's attention; however, it's quite another thing to continuously snatch it.

Yeah; I apologize if I didn't explain the story completely - it's just that most people here know about my xanga, so I just grew accustomed to jumping right into talking about something without a proper introduction. I basically went through a good portion of the school with my friend, ran into a few other friends, and then encountered him the moment I parted ways with her and was alone again.
Sinful, you're just contradictory ;P

[jooojooobeee]

that sounds really creepy. how old is he? and is he asian? can you explain some more about his facial expressions? how does he look at you? anything odd worth drawing attention to ? besides the fact that he's a creepy stalker

oh, and did you ever feel frightened by him?

[FragrantMemory]

Nov 25, 2009 19:37:39 GMT -5 jooojooobeee said:

that sounds really creepy. how old is he? and is he asian? can you explain some more about his facial expressions? how does he look at you? anything odd worth drawing attention to ? besides the fact that he's a creepy stalker

oh, and did you ever feel frightened by him?

He says he's eighteen, although he looks at least half a decade older than that. But seeing how his half-Asian genetics proved dominant, he of course looks relatively old for his age compared to the typical Asian male.
He's half Japanese and half Mexican. I believe I was confused at one point and stated he was half Italian.
He initially looked really weird and different to me - because he seems really adamant about NOT looking anyone in the eye.
At times he speaks more to my chest than my face. If I'm wearing something arguably revealing that day, then the look that he throws me is enough to induce shivers (which is why I've gone back to my trusty cardigan hoodie - no cleavage - just the neck and above!).
Oh, and when I'm speaking to him, he mimics my gestures - ALL the time. If I reach up to scratch my head, he does the same.

But, those things in themselves aren't creepy. It's the way he's acting. I mean, what the hell. Can't I start college in peace? -_-
I have half a mind to introduce him to a certain Coconut Lord. He's an old pal of mine. He'll send this guy running for his mommy !! .... I hope.
Also, the problem is me is that ... well, I'd hate to be rude. >.>
Not on purpose, anyway.

Before, I made the mistake of telling him I'd attend AX 2010.
But I'll be flanked with friends there. So yeah.

Next semester I'll be safe with my best friend. NO ONE WOULD DARE MESS WITH THAT FACE .

LMAO

[Xyrad]

He's been staring at your chest this whole time???
Ling, you gotta say something. It's not being rude, it's defending yourself. You got mad at me for hugging you once, but this guy gets away with ogling you from day one?

Oh, Coconut Lord's at the old haunt on Mondays. He usually leaves between 4 and 5.

YOU TOLD HIM YOU'D BE AT AX?

[icekissmist]

The man is a Japanese, isn't he? No surprise there. That country and its people are getting more and more artificial each day, in a disturbing way.

[TheKorean]

Nov 25, 2009 23:20:51 GMT -5 icekissmist said:

The man is a Japanese, isn't he? No surprise there. That country and its people are getting more and more artificial each day, in a disturbing way.

That's a bit far.

But remember ye this: the more puritanical a society is, the more perverse its underside is.

Newton's Third Law of Physics applies to collective human behavior as well: for every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction.


Ling, is there anything else you've revealed to this guy?